给双向的家人和朋友的建议——ADVICE FOR FAMILY AND FRINEDS

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Episodes of mania or depression can be very distressing for family and friends. A manic episode can exhaust all those who are close to the person. Depression can leave family and friends feeling completely powerless to help.

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It is often difficult to know what to say to someone who is very depressed - it may seem that you can??t say anything right because they interpret everything in a very pessimistic way. It can be very difficult to know what they want - this is hardly surprising because often the depressed person does not know themselves what they want. They may be very withdrawn and irritable but at the same time unable to do without your help and support. They may be very worried but unwilling or unable to accept advice. So try to be as patient and understanding as possible.

Practical help may be easier to offer and is very important. Make sure that your relative or friend is able to look after themselves properly. If you find that they are seriously neglecting themselves by not eating or drinking, seek medical help immediately.

If they talk of harming or killing themselves, this should be taken seriously and professional help should be obtained.

It is important that you give yourself space and time to recharge your batteries. Make sure that you are able to spend some time on your own or with trusted friends who will give you the support you need at this time. If your relative or friend has to go into hospital, make sure that you share the visiting with someone else. You will be better able to support your friend or relative if you yourself have had some time to rest.

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At the start of a manic mood swing, the person will appear to be happy, energetic and outward-going, the ??life and soul of the party??. They will relish being the centre of attention and will enjoy social occasions such as parties or heated discussions. However, these will tend to increase the sufferer??s level of excitement and will tend to make their mood even higher. So, it is a good idea to keep them away from such situations if possible while you try to persuade them to seek help. They will benefit from information about the illness, advice about how to help, and practical support.

If a manic swing has become severe, the person may become hostile, suspicious and verbally or physically explosive. Don??t get into arguments but get professional help immediately. You should keep a contact telephone number and the name of a trusted professional handy for any such emergency. There may be times when it is necessary for the manic person to have a short admission to hospital to protect them from getting into trouble.

拨云见日

哪位英文好的，给译一下啊！

malnu

躁郁交替令家人朋友很烦恼。躁相可令亲密之人筋疲力尽。郁相又令亲人朋友无法援助。

帮助抑郁亲人朋友。

对很抑郁的人说什么是很难的事――好像说什么都不对，因为他们把什么都往悲观上想。很难知道他们要什么――因为抑郁的人往往自己也不知道想要什么。他们可能非常内向、易怒，但没有你的帮助和支持又无法撑下去。他们可能非常着急但又不愿或无力接受建议。所以尽量耐心理解他们。

实际的帮助（译者理解：非心理的）比较容易而且很重要。务必保证你的亲友能够照顾好自己。如果发现他们严重忽视自己，不吃不喝，那么马上寻求医疗帮助。

如果他们谈及伤害自己或自杀，就要严肃对待，并要取得专业人士的帮助。

你一定要给自己时间和空间给自己的电池充电（译者注：自己放松一下，不要把所有压力都自己扛。）。一定要保证自己能有时间独处或与能给予你需要的支持的朋友在一起。如果亲友住院，一定与其他人共同探视。你自己要有时间休息才能更好地支撑你的亲友。

帮助躁狂亲友

躁狂初期，病人愉快、多动、外向，是派对的灵魂人物。他们乐于得到人们的关注，喜欢派对或辩论等社交场合。但这些会增加他们的兴奋程度使他们的情绪更high。所以一方面规劝他们就医，另一方面最好不让他们参与这种场合。让他们更多了解这种病症对他们有益。

躁狂严重时人会有敌意，多疑，言语和动作都可能易爆怒。不要与其争辩，立即寻找医疗帮助。应常备可信赖的专业人士电话，以备出现不测。严重时为保护他们可将躁狂病人短期住院。

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其实许多这些英文材料也都是些比较简单的原则，其中许多都在阳光反复讨论过，大家即使看不懂可以就这个专题谈一下自己的见解，我们讨论出来的结果可能比一则材料中的更全面，当然也会比外国材料中的更切合我们的实际情况。这样也省却了会英语的朋友没时间全文翻译时大家干发呆。

eutgoeru

感谢malnu的辛勤劳动

拨云见日

　　首先感谢malnu能译出！　
　　另外感谢阳光的发启人，在上面大家可以有好的经验共享！　
　　另外希望所有的家属给自已减压，不要把自已弄垮了！他们需要我们的爱，我们的健康！
　　作为家属的我，在他抑郁的时候会感到心烦，劝他出门晒晒太阳他都不愿意，就愿意睡觉; 在他兴奋时会感到不安，劝他在家休息休息他也不愿意，就不爱睡觉！归结到一点就是睡眠，我无形中给自已施压，我是不可能和亲朋好友说这个问题，包括他的父母，我也是安慰他们，说慢慢会好的，终于我感觉我自已也曾有特别强烈的自杀的欲望，曾听劝人不要自杀的人说，自杀那么恐怖的事你都不怕，还怕活着吗，也就是那会理解了为什么人还会自杀，因为活着太痛苦了，比死还可怕，那时内心焦虑，浑身放松不下来！后来去医院，医生给我开了点焦虑的药，晚上睡不着时就吃一粒，慢慢的他病情缓解，我也好点了！我也在调整自己的心态！为了我爱的人和爱我的人。
　　我知道我的心结在于他，只要他好，我就好！头几天他又两晚失眠，由于有了经验，给他加药了，他没有象往年那种兴奋的壮态，我很高兴！
　　不知大家有没有食疗的经验！
　　我一般会经常的煮黑米红枣粥，这可以有保护肝脏的作用，大家不妨试一试！

[ 本帖最后由 拨云见日 于 06-5-9 20:23 编辑 ]

ayaa

不知道我以后的爱人会这么样子的容忍我么