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This is Charles Z. Song.......

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16#
发表于 05-12-13 19:00:01 | 只看该作者
If you love him,
bring him to New York,
for it's heaven;

if you hate him,
bring him to New York,
for it's hell;
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Now my question for Dear Kathy:
Is it true " New York is Haven"
or Is it true " New York is Hell"
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发表于 05-12-14 00:30:23 | 只看该作者
Dear Charles,

Firstly, thanks for your assignment—not an easy question really and it took me some time to think about it.

Secondly, I cannot tell if it is heaven or hell coz I’ve never been to New York. :-)
I think it is two sides of a coin, so the answers are yes and no. In that TV show, to the main character Wang Qiming, it is both heaven and hell. It is heaven because he was quite successful in terms of wealth—he earned a lot of money and became rich through his hard work; the other side of the coin is definitely hell, because he lost many—his wife left him, his daughter was alienated from him and became indulged in wine ect.ect…but at least he finally found his love-A Chun. So to him, it is a complex answer whether it is heaven or hell and I think it also happens to others. It might be someone’s heaven but other’s hell or it might be heaven to you in terms of certain aspects, but hell in terms of other.

Thirdly, what you think of yourself is often quite different from what others might think about you. Say you have a decent job and earn a decent salary but deep in heart you might feel you lead a miserable life coz you struggle a lot internally and you’ve never been satisfied with yourself. In the viewpoint of others you are quite different; they even envy you for who you are. So when it comes to the question of heaven or hell, you might feel it is hell to you while others might think you are living in heaven or vice versa.

Fourthly, one man’s meat might be others’ poison. Some say New York is their heaven, so others are willing to go and have their try there. Unfortunately it turned out to be their hell. People tend to go along with the crowd and sometimes they don’t even know what they are doing.

Fifthly, heaven and hell are two extremes in life. I think for many people, they are living somewhere between…

Last but not least, some are blessed by God, so they live in heaven, while others are not, so they live in hell.

My question here is where do you think you are living? Heaven or hell or somewhere between?

Cheers,

Kathy
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发表于 05-12-14 13:31:53 | 只看该作者
Very good answers from Kathy!

For the question, I can not answer exactly, please give this chance to Charles!

Bell
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发表于 05-12-14 18:14:51 | 只看该作者
My God!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
What a Great Question Kathy asked!!!!
What are you doing, Dear Mr. Bell!!! Please open your mouth and answer it!!!
Honestly i have many many many....words in my mind and they are eager to find any exit.....but, too many so i can't say EVEN A WORD right now.
it's 4:54am right now, i need to go to work today, so forgive me to run away from this topic, just like Bell, haha.
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My question here is where do you think you are living? Heaven or hell or somewhere between?
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发表于 05-12-14 23:30:42 | 只看该作者
Boy, that’s OK. It’s not compulsory anyway. You may skip it or answer it later—no need to write an essay, so please don’t be too modest. I just have that curiosity…
Charles, congratulations on your new job. Courage, patience and persistence are 3 elements to success. You see, you have begun to make a big step toward your goal. Just do it!
May God bless you!

Cheers,

Kathy
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发表于 05-12-15 13:58:07 | 只看该作者
Dear Kathy:
I love what you said: "May God Bless"!!! i will go to my fellowship tomorrow afternoon, there are about 20 christians there, most of them are from well-known universities in china, like Beijing Uni., QingHua.......i love that fellowship!
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发表于 05-12-15 21:31:59 | 只看该作者
Good, good! I know that many have become Christians, some are even Communists before they came to States...Is it an English-speaking church or Chinese-speaking one? And the preacher? May God bless all of you!

Cheers,
Kathy
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发表于 05-12-15 22:24:47 | 只看该作者
i used to be a communist party member. there are more than 1000 people in my church, the pastors speak English, Mandrin, Cantonese. more than 10 fellowships under the church.
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发表于 05-12-19 09:27:43 | 只看该作者
my translation is on newspaper the day before yesterday, Anita said, wow, pretty good!
then she gave me two more aticles: one is about Actoress Miss Zhang, Ziyi: "memoire" May be Hollywood, But It's Still Good".
the other, i mentioned already, is about Depression.
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发表于 05-12-19 09:31:04 | 只看该作者
the title is: "Asians get depression, too."
i made a speech this afternoon in a meeting, under the invitation from the director Eric Lee,  he is also my friend.
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发表于 05-12-19 14:04:56 | 只看该作者
Charles,
How I wish I could read your translation on those 2 topics.

Kathy
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发表于 05-12-19 16:56:58 | 只看该作者
try to logon: www.sampan.org
if failed, i will think it over...
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发表于 05-12-19 17:21:40 | 只看该作者
Health: Asians Get Depressed, Too

by M. Thang

About 8% of the adult population suffers from major depression, which is a leading cause of disability. While these facts and perhaps even depression itself may seem insignificant, the consequences are not. Furthermore, Asian Americans are not "mentally healthier" than other groups in the US, reports the Surgeon General.

Left untreated, depression can severely reduce one’s quality of life, says Albert S. Yeung, MD, ScD, a psychiatrist at Massachusetts General Hospital who studies depression in Asians. Insomnia, withdrawal from family and social activities, irritability, chronic sadness, appetite loss, and difficulty concentrating are some symptoms of depression. The illness can precipitate emotional and physical conflict that results in job loss, marital and parenting problems, and academic failure.

Suicide can result from untreated depression, too. Of all women in the US over the age of 65, Asians have the highest suicide rate, reports the Surgeon General. Asian American women ages 15 to 24 have a higher suicide rate than do white, black, and Hispanic women in the same age group.

But diagnosis must occur for treatment to begin. In Asians, depression can be especially hard to diagnose. First, says Dr. Yeung: “Depression is a fairly Euro-American concept...so many Asian Americans [with depression] don’t actively seek treatment.” They tend to focus on physical problems -- headaches or dizziness,
for example -- rather than more emotional symptoms such as sadness and depressed moods.

Second, primary-care doctors may be so busy that they lack the time or inclination, in addition to the training, to explore the emotional aspects of patients who have depression.

Stigma exists with depression, too, so Asian Americans are less likely to get mental health services. Instead, they try to handle their depression within their families. They seek medical help “only when [the depression] gets severe and disrupts family life,”
says David Takeuchi, a medical sociologist at the Univ. of Washington. Asians also tend to associate any psychiatric problems with insanity, of which they have a strong negative perception, says Dr. Yeung, and they may view depression as a sign of weakness or lack of willpower.

Language barriers and culturally-inappropriate health services may be obstacles as well.

Some persons with depression may recover spontaneously. However, if not treated early on, depressed persons can take much longer to recover - with the course of depression drawn out over an extremely long period, even two years, says Dr. Yeung.

The illness has other implications as well. Both minor and major depression are strongly associated with increased mortality (rate of death) in persons with diabetes, according to a study in the Nov. 2005 “Diabetes Care.” Diabetes -- which can lead to blindness and leg amputations -- disproportionately afflicts Asian Americans.

Persons with depression may be at a greater risk for developing diabetes, too. Fortunately, treatment for depression helps with the management of symptoms of both diseases, and improves quality of life.

Some illnesses may hide the symptoms of depression, says the American Association for Geriatric Psychiatry. When a depressed person has physical symptoms from a stroke, gastrointestinal problem, heart disease, arthritis or another ailment, he or she may believe depressive symptoms are due to an existing physical illness and completely ignore the symptoms.

Moreover, US-born Asians, as well as Asian immigrants who arrived in the US before the age of 12, have higher rates of depression and substance abuse than do other Asian Americans, says Dr. Takeuchi.

You can help friends or family members with depression to get medical help by being completely supportive. With some Asians, it can help also to not focus on the word “depression” because of its possible stigma, says Dr. Yeung. Gently urge the patient to notice his different appearance or impaired functioning. Suggest he or she has been looking unwell or tired. Inform the rest of the family, and suggest professional help.

Here are other tips as well, adapted from those offered by the American Association for Geriatric Psychiatry:

• Discuss your feelings or when you were depressed. Knowing that you understand may help loved ones to talk about their feelings.

• During the holidays, acknowledge that things can be difficult.

• If your loved one isn’t eating or has lost weight, gently ask about his appetite or disinterest in food.

• Once you’ve gotten past the initial awkwardness, your loved one may want to talk to you. At that point, listen -- even to unpleasant or “boring” aspects. Offer support.

• Offer specific suggestions or help implement them -- for example, offer to go with your loved one to the family doctor or make an appointment with a psychiatrist.

Be aware that it may take many weeks to get the person to agree to get help. Among older people, common triggers for depression are medical illnesses as well as genetics and biochemical changes in the brain.

Persons reluctant to seek medical help may be willing to “screen” themselves for depression. By searching with the key words “depression screening” using a Web site like Google, says Dr. Yeung, people can find out their depression scores and if they have clinical depression. Some sites are in Chinese and Vietnamese.

But most important is getting medical help -- even if persons are treating themselves with herbs or traditional Chinese therapies such as acupuncture and tai chi. Depression can be treated effectively with drugs and counseling.

Moreover, say Drs. Yeung and Takeuchi, there’s nothing shameful about having -- or seeking medical help for -- depression.

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This health article was funded by the Asian Health Initiative of Tufts-New England Medical Center
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发表于 05-12-19 17:24:17 | 只看该作者
Above is the article translated by Charles.
Nevertheless,no chinese.

Who can translate it into chinese as better as Charles?
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发表于 05-12-19 22:54:07 | 只看该作者
场景:长江边,一老一少,一对商界仇敌

  台词:长江后浪推前浪,前浪死在沙滩上。

  2.

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  3.

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  男人向小朋友吹嘘

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  4.

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  台词:如果有钱也是一种错,那我情愿一错再错。

  5.

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  6.

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  7.

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  台词:不管多大岁数的人类成员,在钱面前,一概年轻。

  8.

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  9.

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  10.

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  11.

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  12.

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  13.

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  14.

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  15.

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  16.

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  17.

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