孤独症患者的10个蔚蓝特质

diliudu

http://www.yeeyan.com/articles/view/66242/35948?orgin=index
简介
谈及自闭症/孤独症，人们往往联想到的是，怪癖，不和群等，笔者在这里给我们开启了另一扇窗口，让我们看到自闭症患者与生具有的诸多钻石之处。

如果您已经听够有关自闭症/孤独症的种种问题，那么这篇文章带给你的无疑是些好消息。所有自闭症患者，似乎具有一种积极的--不同寻常的特质，这些特质很少出现在“正常”的人群中，却普遍闪耀在自闭症者身上。这些plusses非常值得庆贺一番。

1 。自闭症者很少撒谎
我们都强调真相的价值，但我们几乎都会撒些小小的谎，但自闭症者除外。对他们来说，事实就是事实。所以当一句很好听的话从自闭症者口中说出，那可就真是件好事了。

2 。自闭症者大多活得真实
通常，人们会为社会舆论与闲言碎语困扰，忽略眼前的实际存在，而自闭症者大多都拥有理想的正念，他们会更专注于事实真相。

3 。自闭症者很少对他人品头论足
谁的很胖，谁很富裕，谁又聪明伶俐，...等等。自闭症者并不像通常人们这样看重这些区别。事实上，他们常常会透过这些表面外观，发现真实的人。

4 。自闭症者充满激情
当然，并不是所有自闭症者都那样。但他们很多都真正地热爱着事物，想法和他们生活中的人们。那究竟有多少“正常”的人们是这样呢？

5 。自闭症者不怎么虚荣
通常人们买了一辆汽车，玩游戏或者加入一个减肥俱乐部，并不都是自己的真实需要。但自闭症者则更在乎自己的真正喜欢，兴趣和热情-，而不会去攀比跟风。

6 。自闭症者大多拥有非比寻常的记忆能力
人们经常会忘记方向，或未能注意到颜色，名字及其他细节，而自闭症者往往更加注重于细节。在所有关键细节上，他们可能有着比同龄人强得多的记忆力。

7 。自闭症患者不那么物质主义
当然，这不是普遍的--但总的来说，自闭症者远远比一般同龄人更少地关注外表。因而他们不会像通常人们那样，对品牌，发型和其他奢侈品看得很重要。

8 。自闭症者往往一根筋
大多数自闭症者不会玩那些声东击西，顾左右而言其他的游戏，-并且他们也不认为你是在玩游戏。这在感情如儿戏，人情变幻无常的现实社会， 无疑就像火星人一样让人感到清新和美妙。

9 。自闭症者都很耿直
在大多数情况下，当一个自闭症者告诉你什么， ---他就是在告诉你什么。不会拐弯抹角，让你猜来猜去，琢磨不透。

10 。自闭症者开启了一扇精神领域的新大门
生活中有那么一个自闭症者，无论对我们心灵世界，还是我们的观念，信仰和期望，都产生了深刻积极的影响。至少对于我来说，因为有了一个自闭症儿子，让我从凡事应该的生活定式中解放出来，变得实事求是。

原文及链接 http://autism.about.com/od/inspirationideas/tp/besttraits.htm

If you're sick of hearing about all the "deficits" challenging people on the autism spectrum, join the club. But for every down side to autism, there seems to be a positive -- an unusual trait that rarely appears among the "typical" community, but shines out among autistic folk. These plusses are well worth celebrating.

1. Autistic People Rarely Lie
We all claim to value the truth, but almost all of us tell little white lies. All, that is, except people on the autism spectrum. To them, truth is truth -- and a good word from a person on the spectrum is the real deal.

2. People on the Autism Spectrum Live in the Moment
How often do typical people fail to notice what's in front of their eyes because they're distracted by social cues or random chitchat? People on the autism spectrum truely attend to the sensory input that surrounds them. Many have achieved the ideal of mindfulness.

3. People with Autism Rarely Judge Others
Who's fatter? Richer? Smarter? For people on the autism spectrum, these distinctions hold much less importance than for typical folks. In fact, people on the spectrum often see through such surface appearances to discover the real person.

4. Autistic People are Passionate
Of course, not all autistic people are alike. But many are truly passionate about the things, ideas and people in their lives. How many "typical" people can say the same?

5. People with Autism Are Not Tied to Social Expectations
If you've ever bought a car, played a game or joined a club to fit in, you know how hard it is to be true to yourself. But for people with autism, social expectations can be honestly irrelevant. What matters is true liking, interest and passion -- not keeping up with the Joneses.

6. People with Autism Have Terrific Memories
How often do typical people forget directions, or fail to take note of colors, names, and other details? People on the autism spectrum are often much more tuned in to details. They may have a much better memory than their typical peers for all kind of critical details.

7. Autistic People Are Less Materialistic
Of course, this is not universally true -- but in general, people with autism are far less concerned with outward appearance than their typical peers. As a result, they worry less about brand names, hairstyles and other expensive but unimportant externals than most people do.

8. Autistic People Play Fewer Head Games
Who was that woman, and why were you looking at her? I know I TOLD you I didn't mind if you went out, but why did you believe me? Most autistic people don't play games like these -- and they assume that you won't either. It's a refreshing and wonderful change from the Peyton Place emotional roller coaster that mars too many typical relationships!

9. Autistic People Have Fewer Hidden Agendas
Most of the time, if a person on the autism spectrum tells you what he wants -- he is telling you what he wants. No need to beat around the bush, second guess, and hope you're reading between the lines!

10. People with Autism Open New Doors for Neurotypicals
For some of us neurotypicals, having an autistic person in our lives has had a profound positive impact on our perceptions, beliefs and expectations. For me, at least, being the mom of a son on the autism spectrum has released me from a lifetime of "should" -- and offered me a new world of "is."

yzplq

他们好象是独立于人类文化现象之外的一个群体．他们会得到他人的情爱吗（我指的不是父母亲人之爱）？他们也会在意别人的爱，并去爱对方吗？

忠于我心

会，只是比较困难

blackeye

自闭症板块贴的第一篇文章，就是关于自闭症和恋爱的。自闭症是一个很宽的谱系，在高功能一端的患者是能恋爱结婚生孩子的。

http://www.sunofus.org/bbs/thread-42500-1-2.html

Aglaya

目前还不能和女人正常呆在一起,会感到非常的不舒服
很难去爱别人,情感方面应该有障碍,对自己的父母也很冷淡

yzplq

你有自闭症？Aglaya?没有食物没有衣服没有房子，那以什么为生呢？

Aglaya

原帖由 yzplq 于 09-4-14 00:17 发表
你有自闭症？Aglaya?没有食物没有衣服没有房子，那以什么为生呢？

我不清楚我是什么症状．
＂没有食物没有衣服没有房子＂这个不是说的字面意思．
卡夫卡有篇小说《饥饿艺术家》，主人公最后说了这样的话“我只能忍饥挨饿，我也没有其他办法”“因为我找不到适合我胃口的食物。假如我找到这样的食物，请相信我，我不会招人参观，若人显眼，并像你，像大伙一样，吃得饱饱的。”
我觉得自己也是这样。“衣服”“房子”类似，感觉自己赤身裸体，感觉自己只能流浪

忠于我心

80年代崔健有一首摇滚“一无所有”，我也常常这么想，还常常说自己是三无产品呢，呵呵
不过这种想法应该是自己的心态造成的，因为极端点说，任何人都是一无所有的，也可以说拥有生命就拥有一切：）

songlielai

这些特征我怎么有六七个啊？

亲亲

完全正确。

aaronguan

很棒的文章，角度很积极！这样看起来，比起现今的花花公子们，反倒是自闭症患者更可爱些：）

动力平方

还不如原来头像，一个眼睛
蔚蓝，为什么尼？
不会撒谎，是因为大脑转不过来弯，害怕下次忘了说出来
让人发现怎么办？ 11# aaronguan