Adults raised by abusive parents report a variety of long-term effects. The following questions may help you assess your own situation. Answering "Yes" to these may indicate some effects from family dysfunction. Most people could likely identify with some of them. If you find yourself answering "Yes" to over half of them, you likely have some long-term effects of living in a dysfunctional family. If you find yourself answering "Yes" to the majority of them you might consider seeking some additional help.
1. Do you find yourself needing approval from others to feel good about yourself? Yes_____ No_____
2. Do you agree to do more for others than you can comfortably accomplish?
Yes_____ No_____
3. Are you perfectionistic? Yes_____ No_____
4. Or do you tend to avoid or ignore responsibilities? Yes_____ No_____
5. Do you find it difficult to identify what you're feeling? Yes_____ No_____
6. Do you find it difficult to express feelings? Yes_____ No_____
7. Do you tend to think in all-or-nothing terms? Yes_____ No_____
8. Do you often feel lonely even in the presence of others? Yes_____ No_____
9. Is it difficult for you to ask for what you need from others? Yes_____ No_____
10. Is it difficult for you to maintain intimate relationships? Yes_____ No_____
11. Do you find it difficult to trust others? Yes_____ No_____
12. Do you tend to hang on to hurtful or destructive relationships? Yes_____ No_____
13. Are you more aware of others' needs and feelings than your own? Yes_____ No_____
14. Do you find it particularly difficult to deal with anger or criticism? Yes_____ No_____
15. Is it hard for you to relax and enjoy yourself? Yes_____ No_____
16. Do you find yourself feeling like a "fake" in your academic or professional life? Yes_____ No_____
17. Do you find yourself waiting for disaster to strike even when things are going well in your life?
Yes_____ No_____
18. Do you find yourself having difficulty with authority figures? Yes_____ No_____作者: kassandera 时间: 09-3-9 19:53
1. 你是否感到自己需要他人的承认来认同自己？ Yes_____ No_____