那是你吗？
以前我在中央电视台九套节目travelogue里看见一个男主持人，主持过不少期节目，比如深圳，还有少数民族地区的旅游，他说的英语很清楚，我比较能听懂，现在好像不怎么见了，我很好奇，Charles,那是不是你？如果是你，我想说，你主持的很好啊，应该继续。 test Dear 法国梧桐:sorry i have been trying to login these days!!!
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anyway, this is Charles Z. Song.
Unfornately no. 憂鬱症及其治療
2005年4月9日 中国心理网
憂鬱症，是「一種陰霾般的低潮情緒籠罩的心理疾病，宛如織網般地難以揮去，而不是一種短暫可消失的情緒低沈」。\r
人是情感的動物，心情自有起伏，因此難免有低落、消沈、沮喪的時候；在每個人一生中或多或少都會碰到極大的挫折與壓力，或因人際因素（特別是情感事件）、家庭的因素、經濟上的因素、工作或學業的困擾等諸多壓力事件，情緒無法獲得有效的抒解，週而復始一再累積，很快就會產生「憂鬱」情緒，大部分人情緒低落一陣子後，可以再開朗起來，但少數人因為遺傳因子或個性（包括不適當的想法）使然，再加上壓力的累積（日常生活瑣事的所造成的壓力累積或遭逢特別大的壓力事件），而又缺乏適當的情緒調節與良好的社會支持，會將情緒狀態延伸為一種病態，以致於心情與行為都受到影響，於是產生無法脫離的低落情緒；嚴重者甚至以自殺結束寶貴的生命。
憂鬱症的症狀：
憂鬱症的症狀是多樣化的，病患的感受及症狀的描述亦隨著憂鬱症的輕重程度、病程與年齡等因素而不同。以下是一些常見的症狀：
（一）生理方面症狀：
胃口變差、食慾減退或增加、體重明顯減輕或增加、失眠或嗜睡、幾乎整天都極度疲勞與缺乏能量、精神或動作反應激動或遲滯、性慾降低、頭痛、頭昏、眼睛疲勞、眼角酸痛、口渴、頸部酸痛、胸悶、呼吸不暢、胸痛、腹脹、頻尿、身體酸痛、腰酸痛、盜汗與便秘感或一天數次大便等。
（二）心理方面症狀：
憂鬱、心情沮喪或掉到谷底、無望、易流淚、悲傷、激動易怒、害怕與恐懼、寂寞、無聊、感情淡薄、對自己不滿意、滿足感減少、興趣明顯減退、失去幽默感、低估自己能力、悲觀、自我譴責（常感到罪惡感或無價值感）、低自尊、容易感到挫折、社交退縮、時常健忘、思考、注意、決斷力減退或猶豫不決、意志喪失、作業效率或生產力皆減少、自殺意念及行為、胸部沈重苦悶與強迫回想舊事等。
（三）下列行為改變可能是孩童與青少年期常見的症狀：
功課突然退步、突然開始坐立不安、身體動作突然變慢、講話音調變單調或變得沈默不語、無法解釋地情緒激躁、無法解釋地常常哭泣、常常顯得很害怕或緊張、突然變得有攻擊性、有反社會行為、開始使用酒精或其它成癮性物質、不停地抱怨身體某部位疼痛不適，卻又找不到病因。
（四）嚴重的憂鬱症患者則因伴隨：
無用妄想、罪惡妄想、懲罰妄想、疾病妄想、貧窮妄想、幻聽等症狀，常易使醫師誤診為精神分裂症。\
如何覺察憂鬱症狀？
憂鬱症的症狀當中，最主要的症狀是憂鬱情緒；然而，憂傷情緒的表達可能不被容許，進而被壓抑下來或加以否認，導致不容易他人被覺察到；所以憂鬱的人其症狀的表現常常不是以憂傷情緒為主，反倒可能只是抱怨有很多身體症狀（如：身體酸痛）而不提及憂傷的感受。有時，可能很容易大發脾氣，持續地憤怒或與人爭吵等來表現內在的憂鬱情緒症狀。不過，憂鬱情緒通常可經由進一步的晤談而引出。此外，由憂鬱者的面部表情（如：嘴角下垂、沒有笑容或笑得很勉強）及行為舉止（如：、無法安靜坐著、踏步、絞扭雙手；語言、思考及身體動作變緩慢；語言的音量、抑揚起伏、話量、內容多變性等皆減少，甚至緘默不語）仍可推斷他們正有憂鬱心情。因此，若您發現周遭的人有某些不對勁的表現，可能要特別注意他的一舉一動，或與他建立良好的溝通管道，誘導他去多談一談自己的困擾，並且給予適當的社會支持與幫助他尋找適當的求助管道。
另外一個主要症狀是失去興趣，患者或許會說出類似於「對原來嗜好的興趣減退」、「再也提不起勁」、「對以往的娛樂不再感覺愉快」、「什麼都不想做」的話。家人通常可觀察到社會退縮的表現或放棄消遣活動。某些憂鬱者對性的興趣或慾求明顯減少。
其他症狀包括睡眠問題（失眠或嗜睡），失去活力或極度勞疲，對自己的價值持有不實際的負面評價（如：認為自己一無事處），對於過去小小的失敗有罪惡感或一再回想（如：對於丟掉一把便宜的傘就一直自責），抱怨自己容易分心、記憶困難或健忘，從事需智力配合的學業或職業時經常表現不如往常，或者抱怨以前所學的的知識或技巧已經用不出來了，甚至擔心智力退化。在兒童青少年，學業成績急轉直下。在老年人，可能主要抱怨是記憶困難，有時可能被誤認為是癡呆的早期徵兆。如果這些憂鬱者的重鬱發作被成功地治療，那麼記憶通常可完全恢復。
憂鬱者也常有死亡想法、自殺意念、或自殺企圖。這些想法的範圍由相信自己死去會對他人比較好，到短暫但重覆出現的自殺意念，以致於實際而特定的自殺計畫。自殺動機可包含：面臨自覺無法克服的人生障礙時意圖放棄一切，或強烈希求終止自認為永無止境的痛苦。想要自殺的人通常會發出求救訊號，根據臨床經驗，自殺企圖比較弱的人，發出的求救訊號較容易辨識且較為強烈，且較不會去嘗試或者較不易自殺成功；而自殺企圖很強烈的人，通常所發出的求救訊號極其微弱，很難辨識，甚至自殺意圖的產生與自殺行動出現的時間間隔會縮短。對於後者，自殺危機的辨識與處理較為困難且要謹慎小心，最好能夠求助於專業人員。自殺獲救者，通常會很後悔自殺，因為自殺是很痛苦的，而且自殺未成功，可能會有後遺症。而且自殺通常是一閃而逝的的衝動，停下來稍微想一下，為什麼要自殺，或許念頭就打消了。
經由仔細的觀察，通常都可以經由患者的症狀表現來判斷是不是可能有憂鬱症。一旦懷疑有此可能性，就需要尋求專業的診斷與治療。（朱雀）\r
憂鬱症的治療
憂鬱症是一種很容易治療的疾病。幾乎百分之八十的憂鬱症患者經過妥當的治療後，都可以恢復正常、快樂的生活。以下是常用的治療方法:
1.藥物治療：
用來改變腦部神經化學物質的不平衡，包括抗憂鬱劑、鎮靜劑、安眠藥、抗精神病藥物。藥物方面的治療，需要求助於精神專科醫師。
2.心理治療:
主要是用以改變不適當的認知或思考習慣，或行為習慣。比較能夠根本地解決問題。心理方面的治療，需求助於專業心理治療人員（包括醫療機構的臨床心理師、臨床心理學的博士或私人機構的專業心理治療人員），若問題較為輕微，可由生命線或張老師等輔導機構得到幫助。
3.陽光及運動：\
多接受陽光與運動對於憂鬱病人的效果不錯；多活動活動身體，可使心情得到意想不到的放鬆作用；陽光中的紫外線可或多或少改善一個人的心情。\r
4.好的生活習慣：
規律與安定的生活是憂鬱症患者最需要的，早睡早起，保持身心愉快，不要陷入自設想像的心理漩渦中。人生苦短，不論貧賤富貴都是短短數十寒暑，何不以愉悅的心情面對每一天，對凡事都抱著積極樂觀的態度，期以增加個人生命的彩度與亮度。
憂鬱後果評估及預後狀況
憂鬱症帶來的功能損害程度並不一致，但即使在輕微的患者身上也會造成臨床上重大痛苦或在社會、職業、或其他重要領域造成一些損害。若損害程度嚴重，此人可能無法表現社交或職業能力。極嚴重的患者可能無法執行最基本的自我照顧（如：自己進食或穿衣）或維持最起碼的個人衛生。憂鬱症對個人最可怕的後果是「自殺」。根據統計，三分之二的憂鬱症患者有自殺的意念，而大約百分之十的憂鬱症病患會自殺。重鬱病伴隨著高死亡率。嚴重程度重度的重鬱病患者高達15％死於自殺。
重鬱發作會完全康復（約佔三分之二的患者），或僅部份康復或完全不康復（約佔三分之一的患者）。就僅部份緩解的患者而言，發生另外一次重鬱發作及日後幾次發作之間仍為部份恢復的可能性較大。許多人在單次重鬱發作初發之前，已先有低落性情感疾患。有些證據顯示這些人可能會有更多重鬱發作，幾次發作之間也恢復不良，並且需要更多急性期治療與長時期維持性治療，才能維持較持久的心情平穩狀態。
憂鬱症的演變通常是由輕度演變為重度，如果在輕度憂鬱的時候，可及早發現與及早治療，預後通常會比較好，且治療時間可縮短，因此，筆者在此鼓勵大家多仔細觀察與主動關心周圍的人的朋友！ （朱雀） xiexie,梧桐! 重贴：红灯停，绿灯行
送交者: 远景城 2005年11月07日16:27:28 于 [灵机一动]http://www.bbsland.com
假设交通信号只有三种：红，黄，绿。
陈述句： 遇红便停
和下列哪个句子等价，和下列哪个句子相反
(1) 绿灯行
(2)若非红灯，就不停
(3)虽然遇红灯，但还是没停
(4)若没停，信号是黄或绿。
(5)若是黄灯或绿灯，就停。
(6)若是黄灯或绿灯，就不停。
(7)绿灯行，红灯停，黄灯减速。
(8)若遇红灯，不停。
-------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 男人亲吻女人后的不同结果
送交者: 吕爱武 2005年12月02日06:02:23 于 [笑林之声]http://www.bbsland.com
回 答: 我只知道这是意外 由 吕爱武 于 2005年12月02日05:58:23:
岁的男孩亲了同岁的女孩一下，女孩天真地说：你好象耍流氓哦!你可要负责哦，将来一定要娶我哦!男孩被女孩逼着拉钩发誓才算完。
10岁的男孩亲了同学一下，女孩脸红地说：你在耍流氓呀! 你跟大人学坏了，我要告诉老师去。最后男孩在班里被老师罚站1小时才算完。
15岁的男孩亲了同学一下，女孩生气地说：你耍流氓!啪地一声，给了男孩一个大嘴巴子。后来这事被老师知道了，男孩在全班级作深刻检查，并被迫在家休学一个星期，并被告之：如果不服就开除。
20岁的男孩亲了女孩一下，女孩愤怒地说：你个臭流氓!敢欺负我!嗵地一下，踢了男孩一脚，正踢在男孩下身上，男孩被迫在家休养了半个月。
25岁的男孩亲了女孩一下，女孩佯装生气地说：小流氓! 好恶心!你好坏呀!趁人不注意搞小动作。女孩还想男孩亲她一下，男孩不太懂，最后男孩发现好长时间女孩都不理他，为此男孩郁闷了一个月。
30岁的男人亲了女人一下，女人甜美地说：讨厌!你坏蛋!别这样!让孩子看到不好!并掐了男人一下!等孩子看不到时还想男人亲她，男人没亲。最后女人一个星期没让男人碰她一下。
40岁的男人亲了女人一下，女人烦躁地说：结婚都这么多年了，还玩年轻人的浪漫!你没觉得无聊啊!男人一脸干笑，知趣地走开，与朋友喝了一顿酒，晚上回来睡觉辗转反侧很久才入眠，并连续好几天。
50岁的男人亲了女人一下，女人感动地说：亲爱的!你有好长时间没这样对我了!男人歉意地轻轻地抱了一下女人就参加聚会去了。女人好失落，其实她想男人紧紧地抱着她不要离开。晚上男人回来时发现女人不在房间，被迫分居了一个星期。
70岁的男人亲了女人一下，女人幸福地说：老伴!你让我想起了第一次你亲我的时候，你还记得吗？男人们有点想不起来了，女人呜呜地哭了起来，弄得男人又是劝又是道歉。夜晚，男人为了回忆起第一次亲女人是什么时候，整整一个晚上都没睡着，结果第二天高血压犯了，被迫在医院住了一个月。 追美眉追不到的13个好处
送交者: 吕爱武 2005年12月02日06:13:22 于 [笑林之声]http://www.bbsland.com
回 答: 我只知道这是意外 由 吕爱武 于 2005年12月02日05:58:23:
在爱情中男人习惯主动，看上了就追准是没错的。不过总是难免会有踢到铁板的时候，追求失败，看这些大男人是如何苦中作乐的……
失恋后对亲朋好友——
其一：可以此为借口找两三好友去饭店，坐于桌旁，一边大谈特谈这年头女人不是我不追而是TMD太难追之愤慨，一边乘机叫服务员上茅台上XO之酒来。临了，酒足饭饱，朋友又是安慰，又是付款结帐，又是扶我出饭店门叫车来送我回家，且连送我回家的车费也一并预先付之，此不亦快哉！
其一：车开出之后，我弃萎靡之情而现振奋之态，于车内大笑特笑三声，出租车司机惊之回过头用不好看之神色看我，而我，可以对着他说，退钱，下车，此不亦快哉！下车后，我又随手招来另一辆车，那司机见之，头伸出车窗外，愤恨的眼神瞪着我，骂我神经病！而我看着他那气得猪肝一样的脸又可以马上不看，此不亦快哉！
其一：回家，可故意拉长脸给父母看，而父母以为我恋爱受挫而又不得不笑脸迎我，此不亦快哉！
其一：可公然躺在床上睡大觉，而不必担心饭时父母不轻轻推门进屋叫我起床吃饭，此不亦快哉！饭时，可做这不吃那不吃之状而父母以为我心情不好而给我夹这夹那，我以逸待劳，可这吃两口那吃两口而不必担心父母说我浪费，此不亦快哉！吃到兴头，可这碗那碗好菜尽收嘴底硬撑着肚皮猛吃特吃，而父母不以为我嘴馋而以为我故做姿态给他们看好让他们放心以表孝心，此不亦快哉！
失恋后对事业美人——
其一：工作连连失误，而领导不以为我能力不够而以为我心情状态不好，将我叫到办公室，不仅不骂我，还安慰于我，与我说好些有关如何对待人生的话，最后起身拍拍我的肩膀，说，台风，你先休息一段日子，工资我照发，此不亦快哉！
其一：可大胆追求隔壁张阿姨家的女儿若兰，而若兰不以为我花心而以为我感情受伤太重而安慰于我好言于我，此不亦快哉！我可乘机抓住她的手放于我的胸前，说若兰我若没有了你我的心也要不跳了的话，当若兰正不知如何是好时我突然抓着她的手触到她的胸前，故作伤心地说若兰为什么你的心在跳而我的心不再跳之话，而若兰见此不以为我是在吃她豆腐而以为我是因为情绪激动，便又来安慰我一番，我可乘此再吃一回，此不亦快哉！
其一：路遇她的父母不必担心被他们盘问而躲躲闪闪，可主动接近他们喊叔叔阿姨好，他们见我被他们女儿拒绝而风度不减当时一定好感倍增而与我点头说笑，我可做出盛情邀请之姿态请他们去高档饭店消费，他们见我热情一片必然不好推托而与我同去。饭时，好酒好菜我拼命叫，叫上来之后我不吃而频频住他们碗里夹送，他们这时肯定对我好感又更加的倍增，以致于要说几句他们女儿的不是，此不亦快哉！结帐时，他们必然因为自己女儿拒绝我的原因而不好意思让我付而自己抢着付，此时我又可故做客气状，此不亦快哉！如此之事，二三次之后，他们必然路遇我而躲躲闪闪不敢见我，我见他们躲躲闪闪状而装未看见之态，此不亦快哉！
失恋后对“旧爱新欢”——
其一：可一见她之面就用受尽感情创伤的眼神看她而她以为我痴情不改，此不亦不快哉！
其一：可在她另结新欢后的某一天送她玫瑰花而她以为我追她之心未泯而神情慌张起防追之心，此不亦快哉！
其一：可在她与新欢共进晚餐心情正乐之时手拿一把尖刀突然出现而话语温柔地说给她切割牛排，她这时必然害怕地想要叫保安而又以为我这完成是爱她所致又忍住不叫而心底倍受折磨，此不亦快哉！
其一：可时常让她担心我再追她以致破坏她与新欢的关系而主动邀请我吃饭给我做思想工作，而我接受了她的邀请又不必担心会由我付帐，此不亦快哉！与她一起吃饭时，我可一边听她费尽心思地劝告，一边想着她这次又将要的破费，而那破费又并非从我身上出来，此不亦快哉！
其一：可当着她的面看街上露胳膊露大腿的美女而她以为我是故意做给她看不仅不气还心生愧疚，此不亦快哉！可让那些被我眼淫之美女怒眼瞪她（暗骂她择友不慎）而不瞪我，此不亦快哉！
其一：可于晚上睡觉之前听着音乐想着追美眉追不到之不亦快哉，此不亦快哉！ 转帖：心理阴影
送交者: 可笑不可笑 2005年12月01日22:14:44 于 [笑林之声]http://www.bbsland.com
心理阴影
一个匪徒冲进一家银行，用枪指着出纳员，扔给他一个口袋，说：“给你一分钟把口袋装满，否则，你将成为地理！”
出纳员虽然处于极度恐慌之中，但仍哑然失笑：“你……你说错了吧？应该是你将成为历史……”
匪徒皱皱眉头，不好意思地说：“从念书的时候开始，我就最怕历史……”
手的联想
任教美术与设计课多年，我常鼓励学生发挥创意。初中又一个绘画习作，题为“手的联想”。交回来的习作中有一张黑画纸，我看了半天，两面都没画上什么，只在画纸其中一面，隐约找到用铅笔写上的姓名、班别以及命题：“伸手不见五指”。
哪个轮胎破了
某大学举行期末考试，考过一门课后，有3个学生匆匆忙忙地跑进教室，才发现已来晚了。他们3人懊恼不已，向教授解释道：“因为共坐的汽车的轮胎破了，所以才会迟到。请您无论如何，能允许我们补考。”
好心的教授答应一个星期后进行补考。3个学生非常高兴，回家以后拼命复习。一个星期后，补考如期举行。试卷上只有一个题目：“请问，你们上星期坐的那辆汽车，哪个轮胎破了？”结果，3个学生的答案各不相同……
数字是不会骗人的
「数字是不会骗人的，」老师说：「一座房子，如果一个人要花上十二天盖好，十二个人就只要一天。」「二百八十八人只要一小时就够了，」
一个学生接著说：「一万七千二百八十人只要一分钟，一百零三万六千八百人只要一秒钟。
此外，如果一艘轮船横渡大西洋要六天，六艘轮船只要一天就够了。
四杯25度的水加在一起就变开水了！
食堂风波
学校食堂向来油少肉少，久了也就习惯了。只是这潘Sir不同。
一日，他排队打菜。轮到他了，他看着那位师傅说道：“你是不是怕我啊？”
“我为什么要怕你？”那位师傅不服气了。
“那你为什么每次看到我的时候手就抖啊抖的，勺里的几块肉都抖不见了。你就勇敢点，一勺挖下去，不要怕嘛！”结果，那天师傅给了他结结实实的两大勺肉。
西红柿是水果还是蔬菜
一次上英语课
俺正在半梦半醒
老师问我：
“西红柿是水果还是蔬菜？”
晕，俺怎么知道，只好猜一个
“嗯，水果......”
老师的声音高了八度
“什么？”
幸亏俺机灵，赶紧见风使舵
“是蔬菜，蔬菜！”
老师终于不能忍了：“我是让你翻译这句话！” 参差不齐乃幸福之本源 mushroom 昨天 10:52
前两天几个朋友抬杠，天晓得抬着抬着就认真了，引发一场大战。我居然抬着抬着成了和事老，摁完这个安抚那个，聊天记录两天之内涨了能有一兆，搞得我疲惫不堪。唉，教训哪：千万不要轻易和文学青年抬杠；如果一定要抬，也千万别参与打群架；如果一定要参与，切记一早take side；如果没有明确的支持反对谁，看到势头不对，赶紧撤退；如果没有及时撤退，也千万别给他们以诉苦的机会；如果，实在不忍心看朋友不开心，不自量力地扮演政治辅导员的角色，那可是神仙也救不了了
其实呢，也没什么大问题，被人借题发挥，才闹大了。能闹了这么久，也是因为有的人非要争个你死我活，不知道有些事情完全是可以求同存异的。然后呢，一个个都想说最后一句。我在旁边看得又着急呢又好笑。当然了，事情比单纯的抬杠要复杂一些。好好的几个人，谁也没想伤害谁，可是最后还不止一个人受伤害，一个两个的都挺委屈，还没法劝。（这就是文学女青年的麻烦啊，和人家讲理都不是对手。如果人家不开心了，还不能使劲敲不能骂的 。）如果，他们都能够多听少说，问题可以简化很多。
可巧，我看人家的博客，看到这么一段话，特别应景：
每每被人耻笑时，我并不乐衷于任何形式的辨白，而是力争笑得比旁人更大声些。久而久之，我便多少有了几分“好脾气”的名声，心里都隐隐的觉得我老实嘴笨。殊不知我的心里却始终有几分不合时宜的清高，这清高使我在大多数时候并不擅长与人争辩，于是无论是关乎人生世界政治经济，鄙人都仅仅停留于有问必答的挤牙膏式阶段，不论对方是高谈阔论海阔天空滔滔不绝还是更加冲动的反驳鄙人，鄙人都有信心有决心恪守沉默是金，死活不多说一个字。之所以会顽固至此不得不提英国一位老人，他的名字叫罗素。虽然英国在工业革命之后基本在任何领域没有任何建树，以至于在逆水乘舟中不幸被人冲到了下游，罗素依然是值得一提的。很惭愧以鄙人弱弱的智商并无法参透他老的数理哲学，而“参差不齐乃幸福之本源”这句话却始终引领甚至主宰这我生活的方方面面。说白了就是求同存异，可似乎比求同存异还要宽泛些。比如说你不要妄图去否定甚至去改变他人，因为每个个体都有差异，否定他人的特有性等同于否定他人存在的合理性。又比如说不要觉得别人不能理解你，因为既然你可以感知别人不能理解你这一个事实并且感到委屈的情绪，实际上已经说明你已经不能理解他人为什么不能理解你这个事实，也就是表明其实你也无法理解他人。既然如此，为什么还要强求他人的理解呢？似乎王小波那厮也把这句话挂在嘴边，可惜他早早死了，不知这句话在泉下是否好用。总之如果世界上所有智商一般却自以为是的人们，能够时不时的想想这句话的含义，以为警句，那么那些无聊至极的世界大战和那些怡笑大方的家庭纠纷，以及更加不可理喻的怨恨，争端，嫉妒等等龌龊的情感，如今是否还能一一健在呢？显然是要打个大大的问号的。 the following is from Harvard/MIT Chinese Students' Websites.....
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ciao
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大家有空来写写总结吧.
今天晚上俺就回家清点俺今年的成果.
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breezy
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你说的是已经败的东西,还是计划败的东西?今年还剩一个月呢,可以继续败.
俺败的:驼毛大衣一件,资生堂润肤露一小瓶,数字照相机一个;
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Annie
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今天试了dkny、levi's，最终买了一条tommy的牛仔裤，试的时候虽然想不起来那谁的标准了，但同学看了给予肯定，就买了，打完各种折差不多才20块，想想就开心
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Annie 你昨兒也去逛啦？看來昨天麗人大出動啊.
俺在copley隨便看了看，啥也沒買。
可是碰見了兩個咱們這兒的麗人和俺的另外兩個朋友，很
你們快報告一下敗家成果吧。
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ciao
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最近没啥东西.俺上周去过一次copley, newberry. 也碰到了一个朋友.
没有什么太需要的东西,还是等明年吧.
我忍,我继续忍.
peachleaf 写到:
Annie 你昨兒也去逛啦？看來昨天麗人大出動啊.
俺在copley隨便看了看，啥也沒買。
可是碰見了兩個咱們這兒的麗人和俺的另外兩個朋友，很
你們快報告一下敗家成果吧。
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ciao
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都说说吧.
你败的东西不多,但银子一定花了不少.
breezy 写到:
你说的是已经败的东西,还是计划败的东西?今年还剩一个月呢,可以继续败.
俺败的:驼毛大衣一件,资生堂润肤露一小瓶,数字照相机一个;
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ＭＭ你啊
好，我也忍
ciao 写到:
最近没啥东西.俺上周去过一次copley, newberry. 也碰到了一个朋友.
没有什么太需要的东西,还是等明年吧.
我忍,我继续忍.
peachleaf 写到:
Annie 你昨兒也去逛啦？看來昨天麗人大出動啊.
俺在copley隨便看了看，啥也沒買。
可是碰見了兩個咱們這兒的麗人和俺的另外兩個朋友，很
你們快報告一下敗家成果吧。
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breezy
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ciao 写到:
都说说吧.
你败的东西不多,但银子一定花了不少.
大衣是挑减价时候买的30%off.俺想,桃叶说她有好几件大衣,所以俺添一件也不过分.
照相机是用了个coupon,折掉$20.好多人都有数字的了,俺买个也很合理.
润肤露因为是新类型,怕在俺脸上用着不好,先买个小瓶的试试.小瓶的不贵,败了不算过分.
好羡慕annie啊.俺看中的东西找不到这么合算的deal.
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breezy 写到:
ciao 写到:
都说说吧.
你败的东西不多,但银子一定花了不少.
大衣是挑减价时候买的30%off.俺想,桃叶说她有好几件大衣,所以俺添一件也不过分.
我怎麼感覺是你買大衣在先，我說話在后啊。
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昨天没逛街，但把夏天衣服收起来，也把冬天的衣服都翻出来了，发现去年对SKI，SAILING花的太多。今年要多点自制力了。
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ciao
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你也很 的.那天看你所忍痛没有买BR的大衣,俺就很佩服.
要不你买件皮衣吧,或者买件羽绒的,买个家里没有的,比较可以象自己交代.
peachleaf 写到:
ＭＭ你啊
好，我也忍
ciao 写到:
最近没啥东西.俺上周去过一次copley, newberry. 也碰到了一个朋友.
没有什么太需要的东西,还是等明年吧.
我忍,我继续忍.
peachleaf 写到:
Annie 你昨兒也去逛啦？看來昨天麗人大出動啊.
俺在copley隨便看了看，啥也沒買。
可是碰見了兩個咱們這兒的麗人和俺的另外兩個朋友，很
你們快報告一下敗家成果吧。
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Annie
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不要虐待自己了，该出手时就出手实在有毅力可以等到１２／２６开始到一月中下旬应该是打折最大的时候了，到２月份就没什么好的剩了
昨天我还给自己买了一件tommy的羽绒短外套和一些christmas gifts，我的最大缺点是经不起诱惑，一看见40%以上的off就觉得非买不可。。。
明天要按计划进行体验生活的活动了，所以今天争取把该说的都赶紧说了
ciao 写到:
你也很 的.那天看你所忍痛没有买BR的大衣,俺就很佩服.
要不你买件皮衣吧,或者买件羽绒的,买个家里没有的,比较可以象自己交代.
peachleaf 写到:
ＭＭ你啊
好，我也忍
ciao 写到:
最近没啥东西.俺上周去过一次copley, newberry. 也碰到了一个朋友.
没有什么太需要的东西,还是等明年吧.
我忍,我继续忍.
peachleaf 写到:
Annie 你昨兒也去逛啦？看來昨天麗人大出動啊.
俺在copley隨便看了看，啥也沒買。
可是碰見了兩個咱們這兒的麗人和俺的另外兩個朋友，很
你們快報告一下敗家成果吧。
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桃总，你这样忍下去要成忍者神龟了.
peachleaf 写到:
ＭＭ你啊
好，我也忍
ciao 写到:
最近没啥东西.俺上周去过一次copley, newberry. 也碰到了一个朋友.
没有什么太需要的东西,还是等明年吧.
我忍,我继续忍.
peachleaf 写到:
Annie 你昨兒也去逛啦？看來昨天麗人大出動啊.
俺在copley隨便看了看，啥也沒買。
可是碰見了兩個咱們這兒的麗人和俺的另外兩個朋友，很
你們快報告一下敗家成果吧。
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ciao
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Annie 写到:
不要虐待自己了，该出手时就出手
我的毅力指数随着家里东西越来越多也终于增强了.另外葛郎台指数也日渐增加.
Annie 写到:
明天要按计划进行体验生活的活动了，所以今天争取把该说的都赶紧说了
不用急,可以写日记
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你们都比不上我能忍
我一个月信用卡账单才200多块！！！
因为没有车，不能逛街。只能到美国店，墨西哥店买菜。超过1$/b的水果我都不买富士苹果50c. 西瓜1c-40c/b,我搬不动，也不买。
网上买了瓶晚霜，清点存货，今年不用添置任何skincare, makeup了。因为住乡下，民风淳朴，不用化妆，省了。走路去学校，两双平底鞋，够了。因为穿平地鞋，裙子不用穿了，牛字裤行了。
办公室温度永远不到20，所以要罩羽绒服。因此漂漂衣服也不用买了，反正别人看不见。
顺便说一句，大家讨论的大喝柠檬蜂蜜水，加上8-10小时/天睡眠可比Cream de la Mer有效。不如省下护肤的钱，于是我就慷慨一把，支援孩子上学了。
哦，昨天买菜，看到柠檬10/99c, 我败了。一定要继续监督自己喝水。
总之，我现在葛郎台：开销仅有房租，utility, 食物。附近没有什么餐馆，学校食堂难吃得很，Subway不如自己做。没车当然没有夜生活，灯红酒绿诱惑不到我。blockbuster 本月还free trial. 哎，不用考验自己的毅力也能攒钱呀 I just copy-paste those information, so it's obvious that those chinese students need to think it over and over before buying something, are they poor? probably not. are they rich? hard to say....
But, one thing for sure, no matter whether they are rich or poor, they would cherish a lot for the money, since they know it's not easy to earn money in the USA.....
Please help me translate those things into Chinese, thanks! 我拷贝粘贴了这些信息.很显然,这些中国学生在买东西之前要考虑再三的.是他们穷吗?也许不是;他们富有吗?难讲.....但有一点是肯定的,不管他们是穷是富,他们都会很珍惜钱,以为他们知道在美国挣钱不易. http://www.childrenshospital.org/az/Site1409/mainpageS1409P0.html
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What are mood disorders?
Mood disorders is a category of mental health problems that include all types of depression and bipolar disorder. Mood disorders are sometimes called affective disorders.
During the 1980s, mental health professionals began to recognize symptoms of mood disorders in children and adolescents, as well as adults. However, children and adolescents do not necessarily experience or exhibit the same symptoms as adults. It is more difficult to diagnose mood disorders in children, especially because children are not always able to express how they feel. Today, clinicians and researchers believe that mood disorders in children and adolescents remain one of the most under-diagnosed mental health problems. Mood disorders in children also put them at risk for other conditions (most often anxiety disorder, disruptive behavior, substance abuse disorders, and physical illnesses, including diabetes) that may persist long after the initial episodes of depression are resolved.
What causes mood disorders?
What causes mood disorders in children is not well known. There are chemicals in the brain, called endorphins, that are responsible for positive moods. Other chemicals in the brain, called neurotransmitters, regulate endorphins. Most likely, depression (and other mood disorders) is caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain. Life events (such as unwanted changes in life) may also contribute to a child's depressed mood.
Affective disorders aggregate in families and are considered to be multifactorially inherited. Multifactorial inheritance means that "many factors" are involved. The factors are usually both genetic and environmental, where a combination of genes from both parents, in addition to unknown environmental factors, produce the trait or condition. Often one gender (either males or females) is affected more frequently than the other in multifactorial traits. There appears to be a different threshold of expression, which means that one gender is more likely to show the problem, over the other gender.
Who is affected by mood disorders?
Anyone can feel sad or depressed at times. However, mood disorders are more intense and difficult to manage than normal feelings of sadness. Children who have a parent with a mood disorder have a greater than 50 percent chance of also having a mood disorder. However, life events and stress can expose or exaggerate feelings of sadness or depression, making the feelings more difficult to manage.
Sometimes, life's problems can trigger depression. When parents get divorced, a loved one dies, a break up with a girlfriend or boyfriend happens, or grades are slipping, coping with the pressure may be difficult. These life events and stress can bring on feelings of sadness or depression or make a mood disorder harder to manage. Adolescents who have a parent with a mood disorder have a greater than 50 percent chance of having a mood disorder.
The chance for depression in females in the general population is 5 to 9 percent and for males is 3 to 4 percent. Once a person in the family has this diagnosis, the chance for their siblings or children to have the same diagnosis is 7 to 19 percent. In addition, relatives of persons with depression are also at increased risk for bipolar disorder (manic depression). The chance for siblings or children of a person with depression to have bipolar illness is 0.3 to 2 percent.
The chance for manic depression (or bipolar disorder) in males and females in the general population is 1 percent. Once a person in the family has this diagnosis, the chance for their siblings or children to have the same diagnosis is 4 to 18 percent. In addition, relatives of persons with manic depression are also at increased risk for depression. The chance for siblings or children of a person with manic depression to have depression is 6 to 28 percent.
What are the different types of mood disorders?
The following are the most common types of mood disorders experienced by children and adolescents:
major depression - a two-week period of a depressed or irritable mood or a noticeable decrease in interest or pleasure in usual activities, along with other signs of a mood disorder.
dysthymia (dysthymic disorder) - a chronic, low-grade, depressed or irritable mood for at least one year.
manic depression (bipolar disorder) - at least one episode of a depressed or irritable mood and at least one period of a manic (persistently elevated) mood.
mood disorder due to a general medical condition - many medical illnesses (including cancer, injuries, infections, and chronic medical illnesses) can trigger symptoms of depression.
substance induced mood disorder - symptoms of depression that are due to the effects of medication, drug abuse, exposure to toxins, or other forms of treatment.
What are the symptoms of mood disorders?
Children, depending upon their age and the type of mood disorder present, may exhibit different symptoms of depression. The following are the most common symptoms of a mood disorder. However, each child and adolescent may experience symptoms differently. Symptoms may include:
persistent feelings of sadness
feeling hopeless or helpless
having low self-esteem
feeling inadequate
excessive guilt
feelings of wanting to die
loss of interest in usual activities or activities once enjoyed
difficulty with relationships
sleep disturbances (i.e., insomnia, hypersomnia)
changes in appetite or weight
decreased energy
difficulty concentrating
a decrease in the ability to make decisions
suicidal thoughts or attempts
frequent physical complaints (i.e., headache, stomach ache, fatigue)
running away or threats of running away from home
hypersensitivity to failure or rejection
irritability, hostility, aggression
In mood disorders, these feelings appear more intense than adolescents normally feel from time to time. It is also of concern if these feelings continue over a period of time, or interfere with an adolescent's interest in being with friends or taking part in daily activities at home or school. Any adolescent who expresses thoughts of suicide should be evaluated immediately.
Other signs of possible mood disorders in adolescents may include:
difficulty achieving in school
constant anger
rebellious behaviors
trouble with family
difficulty with friends and peers
The symptoms of mood disorders may resemble other conditions or psychiatric problems. Always consult your child's physician for a diagnosis.
How are mood disorders diagnosed?
Mood disorders are a real medical disorder. They are not the result of poor parenting or something a child will likely just "get over."
A child psychiatrist or other mental health professional usually diagnoses mood disorders following a comprehensive psychiatric evaluation. An evaluation of the child's family, when possible, in addition to information provided by teachers and care providers may also be helpful in making a diagnosis.
Treatment for mood disorders:
Specific treatment for mood disorders will be determined by your child's physician based on:
your child's age, overall health, and medical history
extent of your child's symptoms
type of mood disorder
your child's tolerance for specific medications, procedures, or therapies
expectations for the course of the condition
your opinion or preference
Mood disorders can often be effectively treated. Treatment should always be based on a comprehensive evaluation of the child and family. Treatment may include one, or more, of the following:
antidepressant medications (especially when combined with psychotherapy has shown to be very effecting in the treatment of depression in children and teens)
psychotherapy (most often cognitive-behavioral and/or interpersonal therapy) for the child (focused on changing the child's distorted views of themselves and the environment around them; working through difficult relationships; identify stressors in the child's environment and how to avoid them)
family therapy
consultation with the child's school
Parents play a vital supportive role in any treatment process.
Preventive measures to reduce the incidence of mood disorders in children are not known at this time. However, early detection and intervention can reduce the severity of symptoms, enhance the child's normal growth and development, and improve the quality of life experienced by children with mood disorders. 表于: 12/06/2005 11:47 发表主题: 想海归的看看:一个硅谷VC在上海的感受
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We've reported several Mercury News stories about Silicon Valley's venture capital rush to China over the past two years, not to mention dozens of blog posts. One thing people keep telling us about is the buzzing nightlife of China's major cities. Deal-making gets done in bars. And throw in the other benefits you get in this cheap-labor economy, you can see many several West Coast expat entrepreneurs say they're having a hard time going back to the valley. Nowhere is this truer than for those in Shanghai.
I (Matt) arrived in Shanghai weekend before last, and was immediately swept up by...
the energy and pride of the city's people. The vast majority is upwardly mobile. Peasants come in from the countryside, and take low-level manual jobs. They take the place of the city's bottom stratum of workers, who have moved up to the next level, aided by economic expansion. And so on. Salaries are creeping upward. No groaning here about decline, like in Germany.
My host, Sean Liu, who works for a start-up here called Hengbang, took me to a massage place ($11.50 for an hour and a half), and then we hit the town. We arrived at hopping "Bund" district at 11pm, and that was just the beginning. We headed into Bar Rouge, where pounding music greeted us. Waves of young professionals were drinking and dancing. More chatted on the patio outside, which looked over the Huangpu River. And, there, across the river, our eyes befell the real estate edifice reflecting the best and worst of China's stupendous growth: the skyscraper district of Pudong.
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Oriental Pearl
In the late 1980s, Pudong was waterlogged land where water buffalo trudged. Just a decade later, the government of Deng Xiaoping, in military style, had drained marshes and built a new city lined with a steel-and-glass phalanx of eighty-story skyscrapers. And there, in full view from our patio, arose the grotesquely phallic 1,535 foot tubular Oriental Pearl Television Tower --complete with giant testicular-like spheres supporting it below. I almost blushed. One of tallest towers in the world, it is a statement of China's lust for prowess.
Meanwhile, here in the pulsating Bar Rouge, the sexual revolution in China unfolded before me as scores of young Chinese men and women hooked up. Here's a good place to mention the intriguing story in the New York Times (subscription required) last week about the self-described Communist Party member blogger from Shanghai who goes by the pseudonym Mu Mu. "The 25-year-old Mu Mu appears online most evenings around midnight, shielding her face while striking provocative poses." Unfortunately, perhaps to shield her identity, the NYT doesn't provide web site.
It was said, ten years ago, that half the cranes in Asia operated in Shanghai (though no one is sure where the statistic comes from). Today, there are still hundreds, if not thousands, toiling away. Ken Rippen, an Australian engineer recruited to advise the government, had originally warned the government it would be impossible to complete the elevated Pudong roadway network within the deadlines planned. But he didn't appreciate the ability of the Chinese state to steamroll protesting property owners. Within thirteen months, the inner ringroad was finished.*
(Perhaps in a later post we'll try to mention more on the environmental cost of the Pudong growth.)
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Back to the bar. Ever so often, the bartender would light the bar afire, and do some juggling with bottles (see photo here; sorry, view of fire is obscured by people, but juggler is the guy in distance, second to left). Won't bore you with the details, but the night went on, and we basically circulated through throngs of business people -- mostly single -- from all walks of the Shanghai business life, from Russian glamour models, Dutch packaging traders, Norwegian shipping executives -- and, of course, a melange of local Internet entrepreneurs and investors.
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Mark Hsu
At 3am, I found myself chatting with an ambitious young Chinese woman -- in her 20s -- who is setting up the Shanghai office of an outfit linked to the Nederlander Group, a theatre property group out of New York. Over a drink, coincidentally, we fell upon a common link with Mark Hsu, vice president of private equity firm H&Q Pacific. Now, this is significant because I'd heretofore been trying -- unsuccessfully -- to meet Mark. He is son of Ta-Lin Hsu, one of the earliest venture capitalists to create a pan-Asian investment strategy, and who entered China 12 years ago. Before I left from the U.S., two friends had recommended I look up Mark, a passionate and plugged-in young man of 35. However, despite emails back and forth, we'd missed each other -- he is a busy guy.
Then here I was, being introduced to him at 3am in a bar with next to some Ukrainian and Brazilian models. This wouldn't have happened in Silicon Valley -- namely because there's no such thing as a hip bar that jams until 5am -- or at least one that I know of, or which VCs frequent. And alas, no Ukrainain or Brazilian models.
A couple of days later, I met up with Mark, at his office at H&Q. Mark is pretty plugged in across Asia: We've mentioned his father, Ta-Lin. But his grandfather, on his mother's side, had been the personal secretary for Chiang Kai-Shek, and his uncle started the first English newspaper in Taiwan in the 1960s.
Mark also has a good basis with which to compare Shanghai and other major business areas such as Silicon Valley or New York. He's been in Shanghai for nine months, having previously worked in the H&Q office in SF for four years (though taking most of last year to work full-time for the Kerry presidential campaign), and before that, New York for five years.
And here's what Hsu says about Shanghai: "I can't imagine being in any other city of the world, from a business, social or cultural angle." New York, he says, has become "pretty stable." It still has energy, but is no longer as dynamic as Shanghai. Everyone in New York he knows works for a big investment bank, a multinational, an accounting or law firm. Here, in Shanghai, everything's changing. People circulate, move in and out of new ventures, and all economic fundamentals are growing -- despite temporary "bubbles" here and there in real estate or technology. Shanghai, he said, "brings New York to Silicon Valley in the best way." It has New York's cosmopolitan offerings, but blends that with the entrepreneurialism of Silicon Valley. As for investment potential, the major story in the world is China, "and within China, it's Shanghai," he says.
He points out two major downsides to Shanghai: the relative lack of nature, and a troubled healthcare system. These are not be underestimated.
Sorry to meander here, but it worth noting that Hsu has been politically active (Kerry campaign, etc) because he says he fears the Asian-American community, having attained relative prosperity, has become too politically complacent. Moreover, they need to participate in a dialogue about the relationship with China. China is emerging as the primary threat to U.S. world hegemony, bringing clouds to U.S.-Chinese relations. A growing trade deficit, conflicts over exchange rate policy, and military-foreign relations (i.e., Taiwan or North Korea) are all sore spots. "We're going to see China flex its muscles," Hsu says.
He and his firm are participants at the World Economic Forum, the Council of Foreign Relations and the Pacific Council of International Policy. That same evening, Hsu was headed off for more socializing, this time to celebrate a twin city event (SF-Shanghai) where SF mayor Gavin Newsom and U.S. Senator Diane Feinstein (D-Calif) were visiting the Bund.
China now makes up about 50 to 60 percent of his firm's activity, Hsu said. But like most firms active in China for a while, H&Q has moved up-market. It has raised more and more money to invest, so it needs to find bigger deals to put the money to work. It isn't doing much seed funding, but invests into later-stage companies -- those mature enough to soak up millions of H&Q's dollars.
H&Q owns much of China's Starbucks chain, including the one across from the Great Wall. It has invested in real estate in Shanghai (for example Shanghai Links, the golf course designed by Jack Niklaus), biotech, manufacturing technology, financial services, and branded consumer/media companies. With China's expanding middle-class, and rapid process of deregulation, a lot of these sectors are white hot.
This focus on later-stage deals means, however, a lack of sufficient seed funding, according to people here -- which we'll try to explore in a later post.
That, despite the flood of capital coming in from other sources, namely classic US buyout firms, domestic state-run firms, European firms, hedge funds, and other institutional investors. All of this money means entrepreneurs have the advantage. They can negotiate high valuations, forcing investors to pay big-time in order to play. "There are not a lot of other places in the world to put money in right now," Hsu says of China. "The downside is the valuations. Lots of money chasing late-stage deals."
So Hsu says he's going after the large number of mid-sized companies, many of them family owned or state-affiliated. Many of them are profitable. Notably, though, Hsu says he doesn't like to invest in Chinese companies run by Chinese entrepreneurs with no outside managerial help. He calls these "Chinese Chinese" deals. For anyone questioning this caution, read the unending number of fiascos documented by Clissold and Studwell (referenced below) involving foreigners losing their shirts on China investments -- despite hundreds of years of trying.
Of course, all that is changing now that China has joined the World Trade Organization, and is reforming its economic and financial laws -- grist, perhaps, for a later post. Suffice to say that dozens of U.S. venture firms have shown up over the past two years to exploit what appears to be -- finally -- the China investment dream. If you come here, you will see why.
*The following books are helpful for background on the folly of foreigner investment in China during the mid 1990s, where most lost millions of dollars. They also both contain brief summaries of Pudong's amazing growth.
-- Mr. China, by Tim Clissold. (HarperCollins 2005)
-- The China Dream, by Joe Studwell (First Grove Press, 2003)